Though divorce is not something that couples think about as they plan their union, lesbian couples in New York might want to consider data revealing that lesbians couples divorce at a much higher rate than gay couples. Planning ahead can make things smoother if the couple does eventually consider ending their marriage.
Rate of divorce
The data, released by the Office for National Statistics in the United Kingdom, showed that there were 822 same-sex divorces in the U.K. in 2019. Of those, 589 were between lesbian couples. The rate was almost three times as high as the rate for gay couples, who had only 233 divorces. This high rate of divorce for lesbian couples has been consistent since 2016, two years after same-sex marriage was legalized in the United Kingdom and the number of same-sex marriages increased. While the longevity of marriages that ended in divorce was about the same for both lesbian and gay couples, 4.1 and 4.3 years respectively, the rate of divorce for lesbian couples compared to gay couples was 78% in 2016, 74% in 2017, 75% in 2018 and 72% in 2019.
Why do lesbian couples seek divorce?
Lesbian couples typically seek divorce for the same reasons women in heterosexual marriages decide that a dissolution of marriage is the path for them. The reasons might include:
- One spouse committing infidelity
- Domestic violence is present in the relationship
- One spouse feeling like they are carrying the weight of the marriage while the other is not doing their part
- The spouses growing apart from each other and lacking communication
If you are thinking about a divorce, you should prepare for the process even before filing. You might consider consulting with a family law attorney to learn about your options.